How To Use Tarot For Your Relationships

Although it’s common knowledge that people turn to Tarot for their romantic relationship questions, Tarot can also be used to help you with any of your other relationships. If you’re having problems with a co-worker or a family member, a Tarot reading is just what you need to shine some light on the truth about your relationship with these people. Remember, any Tarot spread can be modified to fit whatever needs the querent has, so don’t be afraid to change them slightly if the spreads below aren’t exactly right for you.

The Best Tarot Spreads for Relationships

There is a plethora of different ways that you can consult the Tarot to reveal insights into any type of relationship. Here are some of the best spreads to use when you’re facing conflict with the people in your life or if you have any questions about a relationship.

Do remember that Tarot is an art and the cards consider a relationship as it currently stands, offering advice on how to better a relationship and showing the areas where the relationship is struggling. The outcome of a reading can change, depending on the steps the querent takes after it. Therefore, even if the Tarot says a relationship is not likely to survive an issue there is a chance that it could, given the querent follows the advice given in the rest of the spread.

General Relationship Spread

This is a pretty basic relationship spread that can be modified to suit whatever type of relationship the querent, the person consulting the Tarot for advice, has. Whether it is a new relationship that the querent isn’t quite sure about or an old relationship that’s heading through some rocky terrain, a love relationship or a platonic friendship, this spread explores the needs and views of both people in the relationship. For this spread to work, the querent needs to keep a specific person and question in mind. For the best results the querent should focus on the relationship dynamic. For example, “Why do I feel like… When…”, but a broader question like “What is my relationship with…” could also work. In the latter case the answers will be broader.

General Relationship Spread

Card 1: This card reveals how the querent views the other person. What is their general view of the person? How do they make the querent feel? Keep in mind that these can be preconceived ideas that aren’t a true reflection of the person, but rather the interpretation of the person as the querent sees them.

Card 2: This card reveals how the other person sees the querent. As with the first card, what is depicted here is not necessarily what the querent is, but how they come across to the other person in the relationship.

Card 3: This card reveals the querent’s needs. Are they in need of emotional, physical or Spiritual support? Are they at ease in their own life or is something lacking?

Card 4: This card reveals the needs of the other person. As with the third card this is a depiction of what the other person’s needs are, regardless of the relationship. The querent may offer support in these needs, but it is not necessarily their fault that the other person has these needs.

Card 5: This card reveals the current state of the relationship. How the two people in the relationship interact is depicted here. Any underlying energies that the querent may not yet be aware of can be revealed in this card.

Card 6: This card reveals the path the querent would like the relationship to follow. It is their own ideal. If this card is negative the querent likely feels they do not deserve the other person or they are holding onto past relationships that ended badly and they are subconsciously steering this relationship in the same direction.

Card 7: This card reveals the path the other person would like the relationship to follow. As with the sixth card, this is the other person’s ideal, whether it is conscious or unconscious. Very few people stay in a relationship if they consciously wish it to end, therefore, if this is a negative card, the querent shouldn’t take it personally but rather try to understand that the other person may have some issues to work through before the relationship can truly flourish.

Card 8: This card reveals the things you should consider about the relationship. This is the Tarot’s objective view of the whole relationship. Anything depicted here, whether positive or negative, should be duly considered. Is a negative card just a temporary phase or does it seem a fixed problem for the querent? Will they be able to resolve the issue?

Card 9: This is the outcome card and it reveals the answer to the initial question. If it is a positive card the relationship is likely to last for some time, if it is a negative card the two people in the relationship should work towards having a similar goal or outlook regarding the relationship. If they can resolve their differences the outcome of a future spread can be very different.

Harsh Truth

This is a great spread when the querent wants to know the truth about a relationship. It will provide insights into what the querent needs to know, rather than what they wish were true. It will get to the bottom of any issue in any relationship.

NOTE: If the querent wants to know, for example, whether their partner has been unfaithful and a card depicting anything of the sort appears in the spread it may be pointing towards the querent’s doubts rather than the actual act of cheating. It is therefore of utmost importance that the querent’s concern be taken into consideration during the reading before they ruin a perfectly good relationship due to personal doubts which have been “solidified” by the reading.

This is a very powerful spread and should not be attempted if the reader is not confident that they can navigate the querent through the truths that are revealed successfully. This spread’s accuracy relies on the reader’s ability to intuit what the real truth of a situation is, rather than just reading the cards at face value and therefore it is better suited to more experienced readers.

Take a look at this in depth guide if you are a beginner and want to improve your Love Tarot Reading skills.

Harsh Truth

Card 1: This card reveals what the querent wants to be true. It is their deepest desire. If this card is negative the querent is working against the relationship and they need to let go of any unresolved or past conflicts within themselves.

Card 2: This card reveals what the querent doesn’t want to be true. If this card is positive the same counts as for the first card. The querent may be, consciously or unconsciously, sabotaging the health of the relationship due to personal issues.

Card 3: This card reveals what is true. If this card reveals the querent’s doubts it is more likely that it is referring to the act of doubting, rather than confirming that the doubts are true.

Card 4: This card reveals what the querent wants to happen. Again, if this is a negative card the querent is acting in such a way to bring these things to pass, whether they realise it or not.

Card 5: This card reveals what the querent doesn’t want to happen. If this is a positive card the querent is afraid that this positive thing will happen and they need to look inside themselves to find the reason for this. If this is a negative card they should try not to focus on it as it may bring the negative to pass as they are subconsciously pulling that energy and situation towards them.

Card 6: This card reveals what will happen. The outcome is based on the energies as they currently are. Therefore if any of the preceding cards warn that the querent is consciously or unconsciously sabotaging the relationship and they actively start working to reverse these effects the outcome can change.

Sibling Rivalry Spread

This spread works well for a parent seeking out guidance on how to help their children work through their problems. It examines the relationship between the two siblings and their parent, the querent. It can also work for co-workers or friends, where the querent feels as though they are the referee between two other people. In this case just replace the “child” with “person”. Clearly identify child #1 and child #2 before the reading starts.

Sibling Rivalry Spread

Card 1: This card reveals how child #1 sees child #2. This is not necessarily an accurate depiction, but over time resentment and anger can alter the image, and actions, of the second child, making them look worse than they usually are. If this is a positive card child #1 may be jealous of these qualities in child #2.

Card 2: This card reveals child #1’s part in the problem. It takes two to tango and neither of the children will b completely innocent. If this is a positive card child #1 may be masking their own shortcomings by acting in this way.

Card 3: This card reveals querent’s part in the problem as regards child #1. As the “parent” the querent ma be maddling and making things worse for the two children If this is a positive card child #1 sees these positive actions as aimed against them. Is the parent praising child #2 or treating child #1 unfairly, without the same consideration they show for child #1? Remember, not all siblings want the same kind of praise or attention.

Card 4: This card reveals how child #2 sees child #1. This works the same as for the first card, but the roles are reversed.

Card 5: This card reveals child #2’s part in the problem. The same applies as for the second card, regarding child #2.

Card 6: This card reveals querent’s part in the problem as regards child #2. The same applies as for the third card.

NOTE: It is wise to take a look at the preceding six cards at this point. Discern see how the pairs correlate to and differ from each other to get a clear idea of the relationship dynamic before continuing.

Card 7: This card reveals what querent needs to do with regards to child #1. Relate this card back to the first three cards to determine a clear course of action. If this is a negative card child #1 may need some tough love to get a new perspective of the situation. But, pay careful attention to the third card so as not to aggravate the situation and work on resolving the issue pointed out in the second card. The first card will be naturally resolved as the situation changes.

Card 8: This card reveals what querent needs to do with regards to child #2. Relate this card back to the fourth, fifth and sixth cards to determine a clear course of action. If this is a negative card child #2 may need some tough love to get a new perspective of the situation. But, pay careful attention to the sixth card so as not to aggravate the situation and work on resolving the issue pointed out in the fifth card. The fourth card will be naturally resolved as the situation changes.

Card 9: This card asks will the situation improve? Instead of just looking for a positive or negative response, look at the full meaning of the card to determine exactly why or why not. This can add valuable insight into the course of action the querent should take (as shown by cards seven and eight). This outcome is based on the situation as it currently stands and is therefore open to change depending on how the querent proceeds given the warnings and advice the reading has offered them.

Dealing with Difficult People

Unfortunately, we all probably have difficult people in our lives. These people can be hard to deal with and can make you feel stressed. This spread is great for helping the querent examine their relationship with a difficult person.

Dealing with Difficult People

Card 1: This card examines how this person makes the querent feel uncomfortable. It goes at the bottom because it’s digging at the truth behind the situation. If it is a positive card the querent may feel that the person is pretentious in this way or they may be jealous of this quality in the other person.

Card 2: This card reveals the lessons that the querent can learn from their interactions with this person. This may not be easy for the querent to accept, but we are faced with challenges in order to learn and by learning from their interactions with this person they may come to resent them less.

Card 3: This card reveals what types of precautions the querent should take when dealing with this person. Although this can be a valuable learning experience it is always wise to be prepared. If this is a negative card the querent should guard against and avoid what is depicted. If it is a positive card the querent should adopt these behaviours around the other person to disarm them.

Card 4: This card reveals how other people see the relationship. Sometimes a little bit of outside perspective is needed, especially if the querent feels as though they are the only one who has issues with this person.

Card 5: This card reveals what else the querent needs to know about this relationship. This can be any messages, warnings or guidance they need to deal with this relationship.

True Friends

It’s important for everyone to have a least one friend that they can rely on. Having healthy platonic relationships helps us to stay grounded. It can be difficult to find a real friend, but this spread will look at the possibilities of the querent finding one. This spread can easily be altered into a True Love spread by simply replacing “friend” with “lover”.

True Friends

Card 1: This card answers whether the querent find a true friend. A negative card may suggest that the querent needs to work through some personal issues before they find the true friend or that they already have a true friend. This will depend on what is depicted in conjunction with the rest of the reading, especially the second card.

Card 2: This card reveals when the querent will find a true friend. Instead of indicting a specific time, this card will reveal what needs to happen before the querent meets their true friend. It may also indicate that they have already met this person.

Card 3: This card reveals where the querent will find their true friend. It is generally depicted in a situation rather than a location, although both are possible, so look at the image on the card closely.

Card 4: This card reveals what the person will be like. If this is a negative card it only depicts certain aspects of the person and this may be the first impression the querent gets of the person, but their attitude towards the person may change as they get to know them.

Card 5: This card will reveal if this friendship will last a lifetime. Again, this is not a definitive answer, although that is also possible. It is much more likely that this will depict the eent at which the relationship will terminate, whether that happens in a couple of days or decades or at all, will depend on the querent’s response t the event depicted here. If this is a positive card it can also indicate that this is when the relationship will truly solidify or even change into a different type of relationship.

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